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Cyberslammed Excerpts

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Cyberslammed Resources

The following are Resources are designed to go with certain chapters of the book, or are links to expert advice, services or products that revolve around Cyberslammed's six tactics.

For more information on each tactic, click on the photos below.

What's Your Cyberbullying Issue?
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Do you, your kids or your students want to know more about:

1. A Digital Pile On
2. A Rating Site
3. An Imposter Website
4. A Haters' Club
5. A Sexting Incident
6. A Videojacking Incident?

(click on each one to learn more)

Combat

Initial Steps To Take: "My Child Is Being Cyberbullied, What Should I Do?"

We believe this Ikeepsafe.org cheat sheet is a good general "What to do" guide for parents of a cyberbullied tween or teen. Cyberslammed also covers six particular tactics with regard to a tween/teen's options of "what to do" in specific situations.

Legal
Ask the experts at http://www.justanswer.com if they would consider being part of this--especially when you've got kids like this who have no resources and have no earthly idea on how to turn to a lawyer. Ask if they'd be willing to come in and be experts on the blog from time to time.
Do this when you have a pdf to show them

Also ask them: http://www.kidscounsel.org/legalresources_teenrights.htm
and them http://www.lsc.gov/find-legal-aid

Online
Reputatation Management. Reputation.com (www.reputation.com) and Reputation Armor (www.reputationarmor.com) are two of the most recommended online reputation managers. All initial consultations are free. It is absolutely worth it for you to schedule a phone consultation along with your parents and explain the circumstances to an expert who deals with cyberbullying issues all of the time. Whether or not you choose to purchase their services, having told your story will at least help you formulate a strategy.

Transform

In our research, one of the best places for parents and kids to "tell their story" and to ask advice from caring moderators who are very familiar with all kinds of cyberbullying, was in the ConnectSafely Forums.

On our own website, we offer a place called "Turn Pain Into Pride" where teens can submit their writing, artwork and other creative submissions around cyberbullying. This allows kids to express what they've gone through in a safe, supported environment.

"Sometimes a breakdown can be the beginning of a kind of breakthrough, a way of living in advance through a trauma that prepares you for a future of radical transformation.” -Cherrie Moraga

Understand

To understand what motivates a bully, which kind of personality types are susceptible to being targets, as well as what psychologically motivates every player involved in a cyberbullying incident, we strongly recommend Barbara Coloroso’s smart, succinct book, The Bully, The Bullied, and The Bystander, as well as who is involved in the "The Bullying Circle" as described by Olweus Bullying Prevention Program. These two resources provide a more nuanced description of bullies, bystanders, targets, and allies.

Prevent

The key to preventing a cyberbullying incident is awareness: 1) Knowing exactly how and what your teen is communicating online and 2) Being aware of the common cyberbullying tactics. As we continually emphasize, cyberbullying isn’t just about the technological tools, it’s about the behavior. This Kidpower Article on "Face Bullying With Confidence: 8 Skills Kids Can Use Right Away" is an excellent "pre-play" tool to preventing unwanted incidents. For parents, having a clear understanding of expectations and consequences around your teen's technological use is crucial. This is excellent advice for a home technology policy. For educators, each Prevent section in Cyberslammed offers a conflict resolution lesson pertaining to a particular cyberbullying tactic. These conflict resolution exercises are integral to understanding and preventing misunderstandings and grievances before they end up online.

Cyberslammed is a first-of-its-kind hybrid workbook
that can be used in classrooms as a teaching tool as well as at home as a defense resource.

For parents and teens

For parents, this workbook offers practical strategies to take control when your teen is being cyberbullied and how to work with school administration and law enforcement to stop the harassment. For teens, it provides a clear road map to avoid being potentially cyberbullied and to recognize when you are unwittingly helping bullies do it to someone else.

Excerpt for parents

For educators and school administrators

For educators, psychologists and school counselors, this workbook provides classroom exercises on digital ethics and conflict resolution as a way to help teens learn that “it isn’t about the computer—it’s about the behavior.”

For school administrators: it offers tools and resources to put a “top down response” in place to give educators and students the power to stop it before it can start.

Excerpt for educators